Anxiety
Is My Anti-Anxiety Course Right For You?
If you’re wondering if my anti-anxiety course is a good fit for you, here’s some information that may help you decide.
Anti-Anxiety Practices for Autistics
I'll be offering this again soon, in May/June of 2025. If you'd like to be notified when registration is ready, let me know:
In these difficult times, would you like to feel like you can manage your anxiety better, from moment to moment, from day to day?
In this 4 week course, you’ll learn a framework and several practical techniques to reduce the impact of anxiety on your day to day life, that actually work for our Autistic and AuDHD brains.
From an Autistic/ADHD human who has been through the anxiety minefield.
Hi there, Heather with Autism Chrysalis here, just a quick note to let you know that I’m putting on a four week course in February on how to reduce anxiety in your life, from an autistic and neurodivergent perspective.
We’ll be going over several autistic-friendly tools to reduce immediate overwhelm.
How to find the underlying painful thoughts that are making your real life circumstances feel even worse.
How to begin to dismantle those painful thoughts.
And put all that into practice in the real life circumstances you’re struggling with.
All the details are at autismchrysalis.com/anxiety, and the link is in the first comment as well. Have a neurowonderful day.
Straight talk about anxiety
What happens when you think about…
- …picking up the phone?
- …going to the store (esp. with or without your headphones on)?
- …reaching out to a colleague for info?
- …updating people in your life about what’s been going on with you lately?
- …telling someone you’ve figured out you’re Autistic or neurodivergent?
- …starting an assignment, project, or homework when you’re not sure what’s expected of you?
- …running the gauntlet between your car and your office?
- …suggesting something for dinner (are they agreeing because they want it or they being polite but are secretly resentful)?
- …trying to get out of that event without upsetting the wrong people (anyone; everyone)?
If you’re like I was just a few years ago (and many of my clients are), even thinking about these gets dangerously close to overwhelm, shutdown, or an urge to rant. Does your stomach clench or your throat tighten? Or do you get snippy with people? Or hide (that cabin in the woods would be so nice…sigh)?
The alternative
What if you had skills to deal with these thoughts when they come up? I won’t promise they will go away forever (let’s be realistic), but I firmly believe (and have experienced) that it is possible to learn how to diffuse them so that they aren’t as intense.
And when they’re not as intense, they’re not as overwhelming.
So your brain will have capacity left over to think other things, like finding useful solutions to those situations.
People don't understand
People have accused you of procrastinating, being a perfectionist, overthinking, or being lazy, or you’ve accused yourself of these things (they’re all untrue by the way), and while yes, okay, you aren’t taking action, its not for the reasons people assume.
Why it’s so damn hard
The trouble is, you have a history of genuinely bad experiences with situations like these and you’re trying to avoid all the potential pitfalls, or else don’t have a clue how to avoid the very real dangers, and it’s so easy to focus on those, and everything else that genuinely could go wrong.
And even when you intellectually know that most of those worries probably won’t happen this time, it’s not so easy to turn off the scenes of disaster playing on endless loop in your head, or the clenching in your gut, or to fall asleep with your mind on overdrive.
Why the other solutions didn’t work
Talking yourself out of fretting doesn’t work.
Forcing yourself to do things only works for a while, then the resistance grows stronger.
Trying harder is crap. You’ve tried with every ounce of your being. There isn’t any energy left.
Tips for procrastination don’t work, because it’s not really that.
Overthinking isn’t combatted by thinking your way out (if only!) or just thinking less (hah!).
Reframing anxieties doesn’t get at the real issue when you have so many real experiences of what you’re anxious about coming true.
And allistics just don’t get it.
Overthinking isn’t combatted by thinking your way out (if only!) or just thinking less (hah!).
"One major takeaway is how widely applicable this framework for anxiety is, it's awesome.
Before, I would maybe use a grounding technique for one type of anxiety, and try to think myself out of another kind of anxiety. But with these skills, I can work on any anxiety, anywhere, at anytime.
Before, I was overwhelmed by my emotions a lot and couldn't figure out why a lot of the time. But now I have skills to try and understand the thing that's upsetting me, and understanding it already is making me start to feel better. Now, I just have to practice the techniques to handle the painful thoughts I've found, and I look forward to getting better at that part."
K.M. Before, I was overwhelmed by my emotions a lot and couldn't figure out why a lot of the time. But now I have skills to try and understand the thing that's upsetting me, and understanding it already is making me start to feel better. Now, I just have to practice the techniques to handle the painful thoughts I've found, and I look forward to getting better at that part."
How my approach is different
What if, instead, you could figure out what parts are the real world pain and what parts are made worse by how you’re thinking about it, and could toggle between those?
What if you had skills to diffuse these painful thoughts when they come up? I won’t promise they will go away forever (let’s be realistic), but it is possible to learn how to reduce their intensity.
And when they’re not as intense, they’re not as overwhelming.
So your brain will have capacity left over to think other things, and find genuine solutions to those real problems.
That’s when anti-anxiety techniques and tricks are most helpful, to deal with the leftover anxiety enough that you can put into practice the solutions you’ve planned.
As you do, and experience neutral or positive results, over time that will rewire your nervous system to trust that you have new skills and abilities to deal with hard things.
As you deal with more hard things, and learn more skills, and your nervous system trusts you more and more, the anxieties will gradually fade.
Although worries and fears may always come up, they won’t be paralyzing anymore. Because you can deal with them.
Because you can deal with them.
Although worries and fears may always come up, they won’t be paralyzing anymore. Because you can deal with them.
"Heather is a fantastic coach. I recently took her anti-anxiety course and it was ACTUALLY HELPFUL. Heather, thank you so much for all you do for the autistic community - I know I'm not alone when I say that we really appreciate you." 
D.N. How I know this works
I know this, because I’ve lived it.
You see, I’m Autistic and ADHD, and struggled with anxiety (and depression) for decades.
At times it was so intense that I barely left my house for months or years at a time. The phone taunted me. Having one thing planned in a day (week) meant the whole day (week) was shot. I canceled at the last minute so often that I lost friends, and endangered relationships with others. Work took all my energy and thoughts, until it sapped my strength so I couldn’t work at all.
The mental framework and practical techniques in this course weren’t the only things that brought me out of that, but they were an important part of the mix, and I continue to use them on a daily basis to get through many small and large parts of life.
Now I share them with my coaching clients, with neurodiverse teens, and am excited to share them with you.
"Today's meeting, by the way, was really helpful and healing. 
Thank you so much for creating this course, and for sharing your experiences - I deeply appreciate it, and I am sure the same can be said for many others in the course."
A.H.
Thank you so much for creating this course, and for sharing your experiences - I deeply appreciate it, and I am sure the same can be said for many others in the course." A track record of success
I’ve taught a teen version this program 20 times! (Not exaggerating!)
The first 18 times was to over 190 neurodivergent teenagers, with 100% 5-star reviews!
But people kept asking me to offer a version for adults, so that’s what I’ve done!
I offered this to Autistic and ND adults in 2023 and 2024, and and got very positive feedback! (The testimonials on this page are all from these participants.)
This will be the third time I’m offering the adult version live, and every time I tweak a few things to make it even better, so you get even more benefit.
Is this what you're looking for?
I'll be offering this again soon, in spring of 2025. If you'd like to be notified when registration is ready, let me know:
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Table of Contents
What's in this course?
Meeting one
What anxiety is and isn’t:
a little brain science.
Technique 1: “Heart Circling,” a mildly calming experience of physical compassion, to start the class.
The theory: Clean Pain vs. Dirty Pain. Noticing the distinction between absolutely real things that bring us pain and the thoughts that make the pain much worse.
Technique 2, putting theory into practice: “I’m having the thought…”, in which I notice that what I’m thinking is just a thought.
Q&A: Applying this to your life.
Meeting two
Technique 1: “Name your story,” in which we title a cluster of painful thoughts like a story, to refer back to later like a work of fiction.
The theory: The 4 Categories of Human Experience. How to separate the real pain from painful thoughts, and common pitfalls.
Technique 2, putting theory into practice: “The Observer,” in which we watch our worrying self and create an imaginary safe space for those worries to live.
Q&A: Applying this to your life.
Meeting three
Technique 1, “Sensory Anchoring,” in which nearby neutral objects keep us in the present moment, away from the painful parts of the past and anxieties about the future.
The theory: More tips on how to find that painful thought.
Technique 2, putting theory into practice: “A Variety of Vocalizations,” in which we playfully take some of the pain out of that tired old thought by laughing at how silly it can sound.
Q&A: Applying this to your life.
Meeting four
Technique 1: “Open Focus,” a way to drop down into a grounded state by readjusting our focus.
The theory: Curiosity as an antidote to anxiety.
Technique 2, putting theory into practice: “Getting Curious”, in which we question painful thoughts without judgment, in a search for the truth.
Recap: putting all the parts together in real scenarios.
Q&A: Applying this to your life.
There are 8 practical techniques built into the course, but I often throw in a few others here and there, depending on people’s questions, so you’ll probably end up with more than promised. 
They’re not all going to appeal to you. It’s neither a personal failure, nor a flaw in the curriculum, if they don’t all work for you.
I’m trying to provide a wide enough variety so that at least one or two will resonate with you.
If even one or two are helpful, and you use them, even inconsistently, it can make a big difference over time.
If even one or two are helpful, and you use them even inconsistently, it can make a big difference over time.
What to expect in each meeting
Each meeting will start with a physical anti-anxiety technique, to help soothe our nervous systems so our brains can work better for the rest of the meeting.
Then we’ll get into some theory, and a technique to directly put that theory into practice.
I’ll answer questions as we go, so you don’t have to hold them to the end. To the extent that you want to share, I want to help you apply this to your specific situation.
We’ll have a little time at the end for any last Q&A.
- No one will be put on the spot or asked to share anything they don’t freely volunteer.
- My intention in this group setting is to practice these techniques with day-to-day frustrations, not the deep topics that are best reserved for therapy or 1:1 coaching.
- This course is intended to be a welcoming place for diverse learning and communication styles, and gender inclusive.
- You are welcome to participate with camera off or on, to communicate via chat or voice or listen quietly, to move around, stimm, tic, doodle, take notes, look away, and to request accommodations as needed.
- Live attendance is not required. You’re welcome to treat this as an asynchronous course, watching the recordings later. A chat space for questions will be available on the course platform.
What you'll get
- 4 – 90 minute live classes.
- Approximately 40-50 minutes of that will be info dumping, with space for questions interspersed throughout.
- Approximately 40-50 minutes of that will be live Q&A, to help you apply this to your life.
- Recordings, transcripts, and chat log of every meeting.
- Slides as PDFs for viewing or download.
- Online discussion space with the other course attendees (if that’s your thing; completely okay if it’s not).
- Printable handouts with a quick recap of each tool for easy reference.
- Worksheets to guide you through the entire framework of detangling and diffusing your own anxieties. Both online and printable versions.
How much is it?
The total cost is $150 USD.
This can be paid in one payment or two monthly payments.
Money questions and answers
The live course lasts 4 weeks, but you can access the recordings and all the other content for at least a full year (longer if I renew my subscription to the course platform).
If you give the course a fair shot and don’t find at least one technique, tool, framework, or idea that’s worth $150 to you over the course of your life, I’ll refund your money with no arguing or nastiness. I want you to feel this was worth it.
If you change your mind before the course starts, you’re welcome to a refund minus $20 for credit card processing fees.
Yes!
If it’s a choice between this and something essential (like food, heat, rent, childcare, etc.), but otherwise you’re ready and wanting to take full advantage of this course, I’m happy to offer you a partial scholarship.
To get one, send me a short email (sample script below to copy/paste).
You don’t need to explain why, defend your need, or flog your poverty. Just tell me how much you can afford, and if I can accommodate that, I will.
Sample email script:
Hi Heather, I’d like to take advantage of your offer of a partial scholarship. I’m able to contribute $x USD toward the course. Will that work for you?
Thanks,
Name
I’ll respond with a link to sign up if I can meet your request (which is likely; I’m a softie at heart).
Do you want in?
I'll be offering this again soon, in spring of 2025. If you'd like to be notified when registration is ready, let me know:
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When is it?
May 23 – June 13
Fridays
12 PM PDT | 3 PM EDT | 9 PM BST | 10 PM CEST | 6 AM (Sat) AEST
What if I don't want to attend live? Or can't make the time?
No problem. You’re welcome to treat this as an asynchronous/self-pased/on-demand course with no judgment from me. (I get it. Sometimes I don’t want to do live meetings, either.)
The recordings and all the rest will be available the day after the live meetings. The transcripts sometimes take two days, because a human goes through the whole thing to correct machine mistakes.
You’ll get:
Video recordings, audio recording download, transcripts, and chat logs of every meeting. Along with PDFs of the slides and all handouts, and any other bonus content I add.
Want to join me?
I'll be offering this again soon, in spring of 2025. If you'd like to be notified when registration is ready, let me know:
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Info
FAQs
Who this is for
- Autistic, AuDHD, and other neurodivergent individuals who struggle with anxious thoughts.
- If you’re willing to explore different ideas and try something that may feel unfamiliar, in a supportive environment and with the explicit agreement that you can stop anytime or pick and choose which to try.
The framework and techniques I present aren’t exclusive to Autistic and neurodivergent brains, so if my approach resonates with you, and you’re fine spending time with Autistic adults, feel free to sign up, even if you’re not Autistic (or aren’t sure).
Who this is not for
- If you’re overloaded right now and don’t have the time or capacity to add one more thing. (I’ll be offering this again in a few months.)
- If you fundamentally disagree with my philosophy as presented above, you’re not going to have a good experience.
- If you absolutely cannot stand someone starting sentences with conjunctions. Because I do that a lot. (I reject strict adherence to classical Latin grammar rules in modern English.)
Will this course get rid of all my anxieties?
I want to be realistic, so the honest answer is no. And I wouldn’t trust any short course that makes that promise.
Your anxiety probably developed gradually over a long period of time, likely several years or decades. And it’s had a lot of practice doing this thing that it’s doing (trying to protect you in the only way it knows how).
A few weeks isn’t going to change all of that. But it can make a start. Or add on to what you’re already doing.
I’d like to offer a way to think about anxiety that doesn’t blame or shame you, that doesn’t assume you’re broken or that something’s wrong with you for having anxiety, or for the impact it’s had on your life.
There are enough techniques, of a wide enough variety, that you can pick and choose those that work best for you. If you find even one or two that are helpful, and use them even inconsistently, it can make a big difference over time.
And provide evidence that it can get better!
I'd like to offer a way to think about anxiety that doesn't blame or shame you, that doesn't assume you're broken or that something's wrong with you for having anxiety, or for the impact it's had on your life.
If you tell me to just take three breaths, I'm going to scream!
Ugh, I hate that!
I got that advice so much, and found it so unhelpful at my lowest points that, for a long time, someone telling me to relax was actually triggering. Ironic, huh?
To be honest, now that I’ve worked through enough of this process, I do find deep breathing calming, but only after I had access to a fair amount of useful interoception.
Because holding your breath is a common automatic response to pain (mental or physical), I will occasionally offer a reminder to breathe while doing other things, but those other things are the primary exercise, not the breathing.
So no, that’s not directly part of the course.
Where does your framework come from?
The techniques presented here are largely based on the work of Steven Hayes PhD, who developed ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), and Martha Beck PhD, who developed the Wayfinder coaching model.
I’ve modified and adapted their work based on my own life experience and several years as a professional coach working with hundreds of neurodivergent adults and teenagers.
I’ve kept what works, left the rest, and added my own twists, tricks, and style when they’ve worked better.
About accessibility
This is an inclusive, trauma-sensitive, and BS-free zone. ALL are welcome, including cis, trans, nonbinary, a-gender, gender expansive, and other LGBTQIA+ humans.
The live meetings will be conducted via Zoom Meeting. You are welcome to participate with camera off or on, to listen quietly or communicate via chat or voice, to fidget, move, stimm, tic, doodle, take notes, or look away throughout.
Live automatic captions will be available.
You may turn the chat, self-view, and captions off or on as you like.
For executive function help, meeting reminders will be emailed at T -1 day, -3 hrs, and -1 hr.
You may submit questions in advance to be answered during the live meetings, in case you cannot, or do not want to, attend live.
Recordings, transcripts, and the chat log of all live meetings will be available a day or two after the meeting.
You’re welcome to request other accommodations as needed.
Is this a fit for you?
I'll be offering this again soon, in spring of 2025. If you'd like to be notified when registration is ready, let me know:
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