My life-work balance got away from me the last few months. How I'm getting it back on track... // First, why did balance get away from me? I had surgery on my foot, so I couldn't hike, which is how I typically unplug. I was also on call for jury duty, so I coped with the stress and uncertainty by hustling each week of September, knowing I might not make progress on the business the next week. I got in the habit of working too much... and because I thrive on the frequent dopamine hits of building a new business, that habit was hard to break. Then I took a week off work and went to Founder Summit... // Even though Founder Summit was a "work conference," I didn't think much about my work. I enjoyed my family in the nature setting, and connected with other startup founders who also prioritize life, family and health. I found myself thinking about what's important to me and how I want to spend my time, not just as a business owner, but as a person. So when I sat down to plan this week, I took this approach: 🚫 Blocked out kids & family hours 🚫 Blocked out yoga, walk & exercise hours Then, and only then, did I look at what was left: the time I'd have for work. // Rather than figure out what I want to get done and try to fit it into my available hours, I figured out how many focus hours I'll truly have — and from there, identified what I should work on. I committed about 11 hours to calls and meetings this week. (That's on the high end for me, and honestly more than I'd like, so I need to keep pushing myself to keep this low.) That means I have about 21 other work hours to strategize and execute. Which feels luxurious and rich, like plenty of work hours. Here's how I organized that visually using a Google Sheet: Blue = work Green = exercise Yellow = family The visual piece is important; it helps me be realistic about my execution hours and how much I will actually get done. I've noticed — especially since becoming a parent — that I often expect too much of myself. I set my expectations high for the week, and then if I don't meet them, I feel like I failed. Which is silly, because the business did move forward, and I get to choose my own success metrics. ✅ So this planning is Step 1 of aligning my work expectations with what's actually doable, in a way that also supports my family and health priorities. ✅ Step 2 is figuring out which priorities belong in those 21 hours... And then the critical last step? ✅ Not stuffing those 21 hours too full.
So helpful to see it laid out like this, Alexis, and also what's possible (execution-wise) in as little as 1.5 hours per day. Do you find you're able to easily focus despite executing at different times / for different lengths each day?
I love this visual mapping/balancing exercise. Going to try. Also...what is a "Genius hike"?!?
Thanks for the intentionality reminder! I'd love to fit a workweek into ~20 hours, but don't know how to let go that much, personally.
We all let things slip every so often Alexis Grant I think another way to be able to reduce working hours is to look at one's expenses and see what can be cut. It then opens up possibility to 'Spend more time doing less' as we say at 'Mediterranean Work and Play'
Wow, Lexi, that’s a great plan. But I suspect you are correct that the big challenge is to not overfill those work boxes. Seems like managing work priorities will be key.
Love your power of conscience choice💪🙌 Also love that you chose to use some of your time to support others by sharing this.
Love time blocking! I also use our kitchen whiteboard and an office whiteboard, as well as a family email account to keep it fluid and easy for everyone to see...pen and paper planner don't always work as baby tries to chew it all
I really appreciate seeing this -gives me a lot of clarity.
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1yUpdate: Just 24 hours after I shared this, we learned about a covid outbreak at school, so the kids will be home the rest of the week. Which means that instead of following this thoughtful plan, I'm cancelling calls (and trying to stuff them into the following weeks), juggling with my husband, and trying to take it all in stride. I'm also chuckling to myself about the irony. I thought I'd actually have 5 consecutive days to get things done! Ha! If you are a parent living in the covid era, you get it. It's a familiar frustration: pushing ambition aside again and again and again, and then trying to revive it the next week -- but only in moderation, because who knows if you'll actually get to act on it. I was hoping to end this comment on a positive, inspiring note! But I hear little feet pattering toward me...